Power can sometimes lead to leadership...for example... Ferdinand Marcos
Ferdinand Marcos became one of the presidents in the Philippines. He has legitimate power since he was elected by the people. He was chosen by the people to lead their country. Also, Ferdinand Marcos is knowledgeable enough to be the president... this is one of the criteria why people voted for him. But, as time passes by he became a tyrant leader, he possessed coercive power where he rules using threats.
Ferdinand Marcos was voted twice as president. People nowadays believe that he used threats so that people will vote for him once more. During his regime, people are not allowed to voice out their thoughts. People he disliked were killed immediately. As for his wife, she closed all the shoe stores where she brought shoes in so that people have the same shoes as hers. I can say Marcos used coercive power throughout his reign therefore making people angry. the people created a revolution known as the edsa 1 where i can say could be a growth group or a problem-solving group. as a result, Marcos was thrown out as presidency and the people elected a new leader.
Marcos' reign is pretty interesting and how people tried to stop him and went against him... one of the most interesting history of the Philippines:)
Sunday, March 15
Personal Overview
Ta da~~~
Here comes the last blog for human communication.
First of all, to conclude, it was really a nice subject personally. The subject was the most enjoyable one compared to my three other subjects.
Human communication, I do not think that what was covered in the syllabus was enough to totally let one know and understand about human communication, human communication can be almost anything, anywhere, constantly happening. However, it indeed made me understand more about myself, and some general behaviors of others as individuals or group. With what I have learnt, I hope that I am able to carry myself better as an individual in society and all other related aspects. Communication starts off within oneself, spreading on to others like a wild fire. Direct or indirect, communication goes around.
In a way, being in human communication course, I felt that my communication skills with others had indeed improved. I hope my other class mates have somehow gained something from this course, not just merely taking it as a subject we need to pass to grad out foundations. ‘
Lastly, thank you to all my group mates and class mates and lastly Mr.Murali for everything.
Here comes the last blog for human communication.
First of all, to conclude, it was really a nice subject personally. The subject was the most enjoyable one compared to my three other subjects.
Human communication, I do not think that what was covered in the syllabus was enough to totally let one know and understand about human communication, human communication can be almost anything, anywhere, constantly happening. However, it indeed made me understand more about myself, and some general behaviors of others as individuals or group. With what I have learnt, I hope that I am able to carry myself better as an individual in society and all other related aspects. Communication starts off within oneself, spreading on to others like a wild fire. Direct or indirect, communication goes around.
In a way, being in human communication course, I felt that my communication skills with others had indeed improved. I hope my other class mates have somehow gained something from this course, not just merely taking it as a subject we need to pass to grad out foundations. ‘
Lastly, thank you to all my group mates and class mates and lastly Mr.Murali for everything.
Groups
Throughout most stages of our lives in modern day society, it is becoming almost a norm to see people in groups or working in groups. From my tertiary education’s concept, I am already being exposed to working in group for coursework’s or assignments. I totally agree that being in a group, it is a NEED to have and work towards a common goal. Any sidetracks will definitely bring the whole group down.
However, I personally feel that each group that you have joined, will definitely not be the same or similar as previous ones. It can be simply concluded with the fact that there are no 100% similar individuals any where, not even twins.
Of course, haven experienced so many different groups; there are good encounters and bad ones. But either way, the problem needs to be solved when it is popped up. I see myself most of the time as the one resolving any problems or difficulties along the way towards group’s goal. Normally, I prefer to settle things or finalize things. Hence what I always do is be the one that compiles or does the final check before handing over the assignment or an event at hand.
It is most crucial for one to be able to work in group. What I suggest is each individual has their own strengths and weaknesses. It is best to identify them as soon as possible, making it known to others when you are working in a group. It will definitely help when tasks are being distributed. One should also learn to be assertive, daring to speak out one’s thought, but not being aggressive.
Cheers.
P/S : There is no shame in letting others know about your weaknesses in working as a group. The group is only as strong as its weakest link.
However, I personally feel that each group that you have joined, will definitely not be the same or similar as previous ones. It can be simply concluded with the fact that there are no 100% similar individuals any where, not even twins.
Of course, haven experienced so many different groups; there are good encounters and bad ones. But either way, the problem needs to be solved when it is popped up. I see myself most of the time as the one resolving any problems or difficulties along the way towards group’s goal. Normally, I prefer to settle things or finalize things. Hence what I always do is be the one that compiles or does the final check before handing over the assignment or an event at hand.
It is most crucial for one to be able to work in group. What I suggest is each individual has their own strengths and weaknesses. It is best to identify them as soon as possible, making it known to others when you are working in a group. It will definitely help when tasks are being distributed. One should also learn to be assertive, daring to speak out one’s thought, but not being aggressive.
Cheers.
P/S : There is no shame in letting others know about your weaknesses in working as a group. The group is only as strong as its weakest link.
survive and conquer
Most of the games that i know involve surviving and conquering the opponent. most video games like counterstrike, dotA, gears of war and resident evil have a specific goal... which is to defeat the enemies and survive throughout the game.
Most of them involve two or more players. each individual has his or her own goal... which is to survive and attain the highest score. For their group goal, they should finish each objectives in order to advance to the next level. For resident evil as an example, the start player should survive and look after his partner so they can both work together to finish and reach their goals which is to save the world from the undead or zombies and alienated creatures.
Some video games requires group work. they usually belong to social groups where interaction is needed... for some it could also be a learning group where people learn how to cooperate and be strategic... who says we can't learn anything from playing video games?:) just an important reminder, know your priorities before playing... play moderately!:)
For my human communication group... although we experienced a lot of challenges making our projects like arranging meetings and doing our group projects... i learned a lot from them... i consider them as my learning and growth groups. they taught me a lot of things. to survive throughout the hell weeks and to conquer the deadlines of the projects. we were able to reach our goals( to submit the project on time and to learn from each other). I would want to thank them as well as my human communication teacher, mr. murali, for improving my communication skills and for enhancing my knowledge about communication. i can truly say that this is a well-learned experience for me.
Most of them involve two or more players. each individual has his or her own goal... which is to survive and attain the highest score. For their group goal, they should finish each objectives in order to advance to the next level. For resident evil as an example, the start player should survive and look after his partner so they can both work together to finish and reach their goals which is to save the world from the undead or zombies and alienated creatures.
Some video games requires group work. they usually belong to social groups where interaction is needed... for some it could also be a learning group where people learn how to cooperate and be strategic... who says we can't learn anything from playing video games?:) just an important reminder, know your priorities before playing... play moderately!:)
For my human communication group... although we experienced a lot of challenges making our projects like arranging meetings and doing our group projects... i learned a lot from them... i consider them as my learning and growth groups. they taught me a lot of things. to survive throughout the hell weeks and to conquer the deadlines of the projects. we were able to reach our goals( to submit the project on time and to learn from each other). I would want to thank them as well as my human communication teacher, mr. murali, for improving my communication skills and for enhancing my knowledge about communication. i can truly say that this is a well-learned experience for me.
Sunday, March 8
Group / Teamwork – in Sports
Well, I just got back from a long weekend having my competition. It was a well memorable experience this time with me as my team representing Help fared quite well on our first outing as a team in the competition.
To be in relevant, these three days, what I had been through with the team was remarkable. We were made up of combination on different level of players from different states in Malaysia. We got together to play competitively only for the first time. But surprisingly, we performed as if we were playing together as a team for so long.
In this scenario, I see our teamwork as the best among all the other teams. We had a common goal, which was trying to win the competition. All those in the team were either scholarship holders or those that are applying for it. Hence the outcome of this competition would aid them in the future in applying for the Help scholarship. With that in mind, everyone in the team played their hearts out and did their best.
Our common goal was simple, try and win the competition. It was quite a tedious task as there were 16 participating teams being divided in to 4 groups. Only the top two teams of each group advances into quarter finals. From quarter final onwards, it is knockout out system until the finals, in other words, to win this competition, you will need to win all of your matches.
Having the basic game senses for the sports itself, and with certain game plans and strategies we had discussed each time before a match brought us well. Every player performed their role, followed the strategies planned and voila, Help team came up as the champion although participating it for the first time under Help tag.
To me personally, there is no way one playing as an individual in their team will able to make it far in a competition of team sports. The saying of “you are only as strong as your weakest link” was instilled into everyone of us and we covered each other’s back during the game.
This weekend is indeed an unforgettable one for me n my mateys
Cheers
To be in relevant, these three days, what I had been through with the team was remarkable. We were made up of combination on different level of players from different states in Malaysia. We got together to play competitively only for the first time. But surprisingly, we performed as if we were playing together as a team for so long.
In this scenario, I see our teamwork as the best among all the other teams. We had a common goal, which was trying to win the competition. All those in the team were either scholarship holders or those that are applying for it. Hence the outcome of this competition would aid them in the future in applying for the Help scholarship. With that in mind, everyone in the team played their hearts out and did their best.
Our common goal was simple, try and win the competition. It was quite a tedious task as there were 16 participating teams being divided in to 4 groups. Only the top two teams of each group advances into quarter finals. From quarter final onwards, it is knockout out system until the finals, in other words, to win this competition, you will need to win all of your matches.
Having the basic game senses for the sports itself, and with certain game plans and strategies we had discussed each time before a match brought us well. Every player performed their role, followed the strategies planned and voila, Help team came up as the champion although participating it for the first time under Help tag.
To me personally, there is no way one playing as an individual in their team will able to make it far in a competition of team sports. The saying of “you are only as strong as your weakest link” was instilled into everyone of us and we covered each other’s back during the game.
This weekend is indeed an unforgettable one for me n my mateys
Cheers
DotA
playing LAN games promote social groupings. it is a type of social group where people meet while playing the game. there are a lot of ways how people meet each other in this online game-DOTA. People who plays Dota invites other people to play...the more the merrier..take it from me who plays :)
the group goal of this game is to conquer the opposite side.
Have a Beyond god-like player and of course defeat the enemy
DotA can be addictive so play moderately!:)
the group goal of this game is to conquer the opposite side.
Have a Beyond god-like player and of course defeat the enemy
DotA can be addictive so play moderately!:)
Friday, March 6
non verbal communication
Non verbal communications are messages expressed by others than words. Non verbal communication expresses meaning and feelings through body language like body movement, facial expression and eye contact. This communication normally happens unintentionally but some people do it intentionally. Non verbal communication has a greater impact to people compared to verbal communication. This impact happens when verbal and non verbal communication cues are contradictory. Non verbal communication is important especially in high-context culture. It is important because it has multiple functions. One of its functions is to repeat verbal message, for example when a person is directing someone for direction. Its second function is that it is used to accent a verbal language, for instance the tone of the speaker’s voice. Another function of it is that it substitutes verbal messages, for example a listener shakes his head as a respond to the speaker when he doesn’t get the message from the speaker. There are 10 types of non verbal communication.
Monday, March 2
Identity Management (Part 2)
Hmm, after some consideration, I think I am going to continue about the different identities I have.
The fourth identity that I portray is when I am with my team mates or juniors in my sport, water polo. In this social circle of mine, as a senior, I uphold a certain degree of reputation, hence, I am treated with quite a lot of respect from the juniors especially. I am more relaxed and more of myself when I am in this circle.
The fifth one, and still counting, I am the coach for Negeri Sembilan water polo team. Well, the word coach really says it all, but in general, most people would see it that a coach would more likely be a strict and serious one. In actual fact, I have simple and basic border lines for my players. When it is time for training or competition, my players should have the utmost respect and discipline for me. But when it is out of those mentioned situations, they can treat me as a friend or as an older brother of theirs.
The sixth one, which is actually my past, I was a teacher in a private secondary high school. I was indeed very young when I started out, so young that I was only 1 or 2 years older than those doing their last year in that school when I started out. So, when it is time for classes during school hours, I take up my role as their teacher, and they do their part as my students. But when it is after school hours, when possible, we have activities together as friends. It was easier to mix around with students compare to mingling into the staffs and other teachers which most are not of my generation.
The ever last identity I can think of now, would be when I am with a girlfriend or with a girl I like and have feelings for. I think only those girls in the past that has been with me will only get to see and experience this part of me. All I can say is, I think I am really totally different when it is with a girl that I am into( I am going out with one now^^, hopefully I will be able to convince her in being my gf!). Well, when I am alone with that special somebody, basically I just try and be myself and be nice and try in my every way to show her I am sincere towards her and I am not fooling around. Should I disclose which girl it is? Haha…I guess that’s for me n her to know, and for you to find out.
By the end of the day, it is up to us to portray different identities and manage them accordingly. In my opinion, the more identities you have, the better one’s social skill is.
P/S : maybe there will be a part 3 of my identity….to be continued…………..
Sunday, March 1
Identity Management (Part 1)
This is an interesting topic for me. I believe that each has at least two different identities. In general, it is the self you present when you are with your family and the self you present when you are with your friends. The wider range of friends or social circles you have, the more identities you tend to portray.
Well, it is not good to mention how others are, so it is best for me to mention this part about myself.
The first and most basic of course, is my identity as an eldest son to my parents and as an elder brother to my siblings. There isn’t much to brief on this part as most in general have this identity. Another one in common is the social self you present when you are out from the comfort zone of your family. Our society has it’s social rules, and throughout family education and school education, we are taught to go along with the rules. Those that fail in obvious ways, are often apprehended by the social rules for example the criminals or prisoners.
Moving on, the third identity I portray is as a student in college, but to me, it is quite different as I am quite old, and I am mixing around with peers that are younger than me.
Well, it is not good to mention how others are, so it is best for me to mention this part about myself.
The first and most basic of course, is my identity as an eldest son to my parents and as an elder brother to my siblings. There isn’t much to brief on this part as most in general have this identity. Another one in common is the social self you present when you are out from the comfort zone of your family. Our society has it’s social rules, and throughout family education and school education, we are taught to go along with the rules. Those that fail in obvious ways, are often apprehended by the social rules for example the criminals or prisoners.
Moving on, the third identity I portray is as a student in college, but to me, it is quite different as I am quite old, and I am mixing around with peers that are younger than me.
Listening and Hearing
As mentioned, both listening and hearing in general seems to be alike, but lexically, they are two different things. To compare, hearing often happens with college students when they are in dull lectures or when parents starts their endless nagging. Physically they are there, but mentally their minds are wandering to other stuffs.
Moving on, listening often takes place when a close friend is disclosing or sharing their emotional events or their personal experiences.
Well, those are just some relevant examples I come up with. Bringing human communication into the picture, I found out that they are so many more types of listening or hearing, it is really an eye opener. I believe that in order to maintain a good relationship as bf-gf or friends, one should at least have a basic degree of being able to listen to what the other party has to say. When this fails, it is more likely that the relationship is a tough one to maintain.
Communication is quite hard if you lose your hearing ability. In actual, your hearing ability, is one of the senses that you are unable to control. You cannot on or off it as you desire. Constantly, you are affected by what is happening around you because of your hearing abilities. Putting it in such a way, it simply means more or less, we are somehow affected mentally or psychologically, depending on one’s tolerance.
So, unavoidable, hearing and listening plays an important part in our daily communication. One should really take some time in self reflecting whether they are a decent listener, and if not should really consider means to try and improve it.
P/S : I consider myself as quite a good listener. Do feel free to come forth and lend my ears..haha….
Moving on, listening often takes place when a close friend is disclosing or sharing their emotional events or their personal experiences.
Well, those are just some relevant examples I come up with. Bringing human communication into the picture, I found out that they are so many more types of listening or hearing, it is really an eye opener. I believe that in order to maintain a good relationship as bf-gf or friends, one should at least have a basic degree of being able to listen to what the other party has to say. When this fails, it is more likely that the relationship is a tough one to maintain.
Communication is quite hard if you lose your hearing ability. In actual, your hearing ability, is one of the senses that you are unable to control. You cannot on or off it as you desire. Constantly, you are affected by what is happening around you because of your hearing abilities. Putting it in such a way, it simply means more or less, we are somehow affected mentally or psychologically, depending on one’s tolerance.
So, unavoidable, hearing and listening plays an important part in our daily communication. One should really take some time in self reflecting whether they are a decent listener, and if not should really consider means to try and improve it.
P/S : I consider myself as quite a good listener. Do feel free to come forth and lend my ears..haha….
Brain damaging conflicts
conflicts are hard to solve..it's either you win some or you lose some... it's hard to have a win-win solution. it's sometimes make your brain "soupy" ( meaning it's squeezing or using a lot of your brain thus making it all watery) when coming up with solutions to solve conflicts.
win-lose: it is when one of you wins while the other one loses. sometimes conflicts are solved when people tend to stoop down from what they believe in just to avoid more and more conflicts or make the conflicts even worst. This happened to me and my brother. we fought over who is getting the last piece of junk food. (yes, junk food^^). i have my point on why i should have that last piece... i am older than him, skinnier than him and lastly i'm a girl!!:) that's why i should have the last piece. he too has his side of reasons why he should have the food. In the end, i ended up giving him the last piece thus, having a win- lose situation. he won-i lost.
lose-lose: when both parties lose :) For instance: my brother and i wanted to go somewhere on the the same day, at same time but different place. we are arguing on who is getting the car. None of us gave in since we felt that it is important for us to go. we argued for about an hour until our mother made the decision that none of us are going out. (in short we're both got grounded) :(
win-win: two parties win. this win-win situation is hard to achieve. i myself is having a hard time achieving this situation especially when me and my brother are fighting (yes, we fight a lot). our mom usually have solutions for my brother and i to have a win-win situation. This happened to us when me and my brother wanted to watch our own favorite show. same time same day but we only have one TV. we fought on who is going to give in so that the other one could watch his/her favorite show. In the end we both ended up watching our favorite show... its just that he watched it on replays while i watched it on the original time.
solving conflicts can be brain damaging ! ( just an expression:D) it's hard to live a life with a lot of conflicts especially when you don't know how to fix them or having someone fix them for you. Yeah, conflicts sometimes make people feel down especially when you lose or in a lose- lose situation. It is better to have an open-mind about the conflicts you're facing. Try going or asking people you trust for hep.:)
win-lose: it is when one of you wins while the other one loses. sometimes conflicts are solved when people tend to stoop down from what they believe in just to avoid more and more conflicts or make the conflicts even worst. This happened to me and my brother. we fought over who is getting the last piece of junk food. (yes, junk food^^). i have my point on why i should have that last piece... i am older than him, skinnier than him and lastly i'm a girl!!:) that's why i should have the last piece. he too has his side of reasons why he should have the food. In the end, i ended up giving him the last piece thus, having a win- lose situation. he won-i lost.
lose-lose: when both parties lose :) For instance: my brother and i wanted to go somewhere on the the same day, at same time but different place. we are arguing on who is getting the car. None of us gave in since we felt that it is important for us to go. we argued for about an hour until our mother made the decision that none of us are going out. (in short we're both got grounded) :(
win-win: two parties win. this win-win situation is hard to achieve. i myself is having a hard time achieving this situation especially when me and my brother are fighting (yes, we fight a lot). our mom usually have solutions for my brother and i to have a win-win situation. This happened to us when me and my brother wanted to watch our own favorite show. same time same day but we only have one TV. we fought on who is going to give in so that the other one could watch his/her favorite show. In the end we both ended up watching our favorite show... its just that he watched it on replays while i watched it on the original time.
solving conflicts can be brain damaging ! ( just an expression:D) it's hard to live a life with a lot of conflicts especially when you don't know how to fix them or having someone fix them for you. Yeah, conflicts sometimes make people feel down especially when you lose or in a lose- lose situation. It is better to have an open-mind about the conflicts you're facing. Try going or asking people you trust for hep.:)
distractions in listening
listening is sometimes hard to do especially with distractions everywhere... we can't say that there are people who are actually experts in listening... there could be external and internal factors why people are having a hard time listening.
Poor listening could be the cause of lack of effort. listening takes effort to understand what people are trying to say. In class we need effort to understand what the teacher is talking about... so that when your seatmate asks you questions in class they won't hear you say... "sorry... all i hear is blah blah blah..." :D
2nd is message overload... for me i can relate this to cramming:) where you cant anymore understand things since there are too much information being fed into your brain all at the same time.
3rd is psychological noise. Psychological noise has to do with our mind. Sometimes people would think you're psychotic when you hear things they can't hear. :D
4th is physical noise. It is when we hear external noise like the noise that comes from the air conditioner...or crickets at night... the noise that surrounds us. This is sometimes annoying for some especially when you're trying to do something important thus, you want silence but you can't achieve that silence since the external noise is driving you crazy!
5th is hearing problems...no offense but i think we are most likely to relate this to elder people. where they can't even hear what you're saying so you maximize your volume but when you do that they'll get angry cause you're shouting at them... funny lol. funny experience. Not only elders but people who are born with hearing problems.
lastly is media influences. we tend to "not hear" properly what news anchors are saying since we are distracted but the mini scroll bars moving while they are speaking. I believe that it is impossible to read and listen at the same time. It's either you get more information one one side or you don't get anything at all.
People sometimes say "it's easy!! all you have to do is listen!!" this goes for some parents :)
its east to say but sometimes hard to do especially if you are not willing to do it. :)
Poor listening could be the cause of lack of effort. listening takes effort to understand what people are trying to say. In class we need effort to understand what the teacher is talking about... so that when your seatmate asks you questions in class they won't hear you say... "sorry... all i hear is blah blah blah..." :D
2nd is message overload... for me i can relate this to cramming:) where you cant anymore understand things since there are too much information being fed into your brain all at the same time.
3rd is psychological noise. Psychological noise has to do with our mind. Sometimes people would think you're psychotic when you hear things they can't hear. :D
4th is physical noise. It is when we hear external noise like the noise that comes from the air conditioner...or crickets at night... the noise that surrounds us. This is sometimes annoying for some especially when you're trying to do something important thus, you want silence but you can't achieve that silence since the external noise is driving you crazy!
5th is hearing problems...no offense but i think we are most likely to relate this to elder people. where they can't even hear what you're saying so you maximize your volume but when you do that they'll get angry cause you're shouting at them... funny lol. funny experience. Not only elders but people who are born with hearing problems.
lastly is media influences. we tend to "not hear" properly what news anchors are saying since we are distracted but the mini scroll bars moving while they are speaking. I believe that it is impossible to read and listen at the same time. It's either you get more information one one side or you don't get anything at all.
People sometimes say "it's easy!! all you have to do is listen!!" this goes for some parents :)
its east to say but sometimes hard to do especially if you are not willing to do it. :)
Wednesday, February 25
Naughty Naughty Language :>
"Hey Brenda, your make-up sucks! Go to the toilet and fix that face, yo!"
What if you were Brenda and some guy named Jake said this to you. You'd feel offended probably. I'd feel offended and angry!!! X-( Almost every word that came out of Jake's mouth sounded so unappealing. I would appreciate his honesty, I really would, but it just gets me so angry. Who can save me now?
tun-tun-nu-nuuun!!! Euphemisms! 8D yey!
Jake made terrible mistakes on what he said. We should totally use euphemisms to fix his statement. Euphemism is the substitution of words to better sounding ones (so the other person won't get offended), but still maintain the same meaning.
ex:
Toilet--> Washroom
He's dead ---> he bought the farm
cemetery operative ---> gravedigger
Lord Voldemort ---> he-who-must-not-be-named
so yes, let us fix Jake's statement...
"Hey Brenda, your make-up sucks! Go to the toilet and fix that face, yo!"
to
"Hey Brenda, I think your make-up needs a little more pizazz! Why don't you go to the washroom and check up on it, yo?"
yey! We just saved Jake's relationship! 8D
Rock & Roll \,,/
What if you were Brenda and some guy named Jake said this to you. You'd feel offended probably. I'd feel offended and angry!!! X-( Almost every word that came out of Jake's mouth sounded so unappealing. I would appreciate his honesty, I really would, but it just gets me so angry. Who can save me now?
tun-tun-nu-nuuun!!! Euphemisms! 8D yey!
Jake made terrible mistakes on what he said. We should totally use euphemisms to fix his statement. Euphemism is the substitution of words to better sounding ones (so the other person won't get offended), but still maintain the same meaning.
ex:
Toilet--> Washroom
He's dead ---> he bought the farm
cemetery operative ---> gravedigger
Lord Voldemort ---> he-who-must-not-be-named
so yes, let us fix Jake's statement...
"Hey Brenda, your make-up sucks! Go to the toilet and fix that face, yo!"
to
"Hey Brenda, I think your make-up needs a little more pizazz! Why don't you go to the washroom and check up on it, yo?"
yey! We just saved Jake's relationship! 8D
Rock & Roll \,,/
What's Your Flavaaa? \:D/
What's Your Flava was a song by Craig David a hundred years ago.
I hate it X-( so I'm not gonna blog about it, haha! Guess what I'm gonna blog about? yup, you guessed right! Personal Listening Styles!!! So what's your Personal Listening Style Flava? :>
1) Content-Oriented
This style is for people interested in facts. This is advantageous in those crazy Human Com lectures, where we have to listen to the content and facts Mr. Murali feeds us.
2) People-Oriented
Now this style is leaned towards emotions. This is good for therapists and teachers so they can understand a person more.
3) Action-Oriented
Soldiers and policemen need this the most for this style is based on tasks. A good ear and a fit body is needed for overcoming those tedious tasks.
4) Time-Oriented Listening
Students and teachers have to conform to this or they will die. This style is based on deadlines and how people should follow them. If we don't obey deadlines, we could get kicked out of school or even get fired from a job!
so yes, these are the four Personal Listening Styles. What is the best style you ask? well, if you ask me, we should posses all these styles in order to be a well oiled and fully-functional human being. A mixture of these styles is needed so we can transcend the boundaries of everyday life!
Anyway, here's the What's Your Flava video. I hate the song, but the video is pretty cool. A lot of good non-verbal communication. Charlie and the Chocolate Factory copied this vid!!! D:<
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKmoY20_6VQ&feature=related
Peace and Love :)>-
I hate it X-( so I'm not gonna blog about it, haha! Guess what I'm gonna blog about? yup, you guessed right! Personal Listening Styles!!! So what's your Personal Listening Style Flava? :>
1) Content-Oriented
This style is for people interested in facts. This is advantageous in those crazy Human Com lectures, where we have to listen to the content and facts Mr. Murali feeds us.
2) People-Oriented
Now this style is leaned towards emotions. This is good for therapists and teachers so they can understand a person more.
3) Action-Oriented
Soldiers and policemen need this the most for this style is based on tasks. A good ear and a fit body is needed for overcoming those tedious tasks.
4) Time-Oriented Listening
Students and teachers have to conform to this or they will die. This style is based on deadlines and how people should follow them. If we don't obey deadlines, we could get kicked out of school or even get fired from a job!
so yes, these are the four Personal Listening Styles. What is the best style you ask? well, if you ask me, we should posses all these styles in order to be a well oiled and fully-functional human being. A mixture of these styles is needed so we can transcend the boundaries of everyday life!
Anyway, here's the What's Your Flava video. I hate the song, but the video is pretty cool. A lot of good non-verbal communication. Charlie and the Chocolate Factory copied this vid!!! D:<
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKmoY20_6VQ&feature=related
Peace and Love :)>-
Sunday, February 22
How one’s action leads to misunderstanding
It’s going to be a brief personal experience of mine, where my actions lead to other’s misunderstanding.
Working previously in the sports department for a private secondary school, 2007 turned out to be an unforgettable year for what my school swimming team and I have went through. We emerged champion of all secondary school in the state in the annual government organized swimming competition. All the hard work of preparing early and tremendous effort was awarded handsomely when lifting the overall champion trophy.
With all those in mind, out of the blues, I had the craziest idea. It was so sudden that I still can’t believe that I have actually managed to accomplish it. It came suddenly to be that since my swimmers and I were on a roll, why not we try to attempt our name in the Malaysia Book of Records? What I have planned initially was to create a record, the longest swimming relay. Later on I found out that there was already such a record, hence, the goal was to rewrite the record. The previous record holder was University Sains Malaysia. They had set a record of relay swimming for 50 hours non-stop by a group of 30 students. According to the rules of Malaysia Book of Records, to rewrite a record, we are to be in distinguish of 20% of the time limit. So, it meant 60hours of non-stop swimming for us.
To cut things short, I have little time to prepare a lot of things. By the end of it, we accomplished a new RECORD! 72 hours officially recognized by the judges of Malaysia Book of Records. We managed the feat with only 14 swimmers including me with each of us taking turns to swim 30minutes at each go. The local media featured us throughout the attempt and we were famous locally.
After all is done, it was about time for a mid year review of the school’s progress in all matters. What I have done for this record, was brought up in the school’s general meeting. Without doubt at all, praises came in waves. What was unexpected, I was complained and criticized by a minority of the colleagues. My intention was just to keep good events in a roll for our swimming team, and having tones of fun with my swimmers who had trained and sacrificed so much.
A list of what was criticized :
1) What is the meaning behind all this? I was said to be using the students to gain popularity and good impression for my personal benefits
2) I was wasting time and financial resources.
3) I was risking my swimmers academics as I used up most of their time for training sessions to prepare for the record attempt.
4) I was using the swimmers to pave the road for my future promotion, salary raise and bonuses pay.
It really shocked me. These things coming out from the mouth of teachers!!! Honestly, I was just planning to have fun and to create unforgettable memories for ourselves. My intentions were innocent, but yet, others who do not know me well, manage to derive to such claims.
Well, I hope this is not boring, relating my experience on how what I did, lead to misinterpretations of others which was hurtful for me.
P/S : give me sometime, I’ll upload some pictures of the record I mentioned ^^
Working previously in the sports department for a private secondary school, 2007 turned out to be an unforgettable year for what my school swimming team and I have went through. We emerged champion of all secondary school in the state in the annual government organized swimming competition. All the hard work of preparing early and tremendous effort was awarded handsomely when lifting the overall champion trophy.
With all those in mind, out of the blues, I had the craziest idea. It was so sudden that I still can’t believe that I have actually managed to accomplish it. It came suddenly to be that since my swimmers and I were on a roll, why not we try to attempt our name in the Malaysia Book of Records? What I have planned initially was to create a record, the longest swimming relay. Later on I found out that there was already such a record, hence, the goal was to rewrite the record. The previous record holder was University Sains Malaysia. They had set a record of relay swimming for 50 hours non-stop by a group of 30 students. According to the rules of Malaysia Book of Records, to rewrite a record, we are to be in distinguish of 20% of the time limit. So, it meant 60hours of non-stop swimming for us.
To cut things short, I have little time to prepare a lot of things. By the end of it, we accomplished a new RECORD! 72 hours officially recognized by the judges of Malaysia Book of Records. We managed the feat with only 14 swimmers including me with each of us taking turns to swim 30minutes at each go. The local media featured us throughout the attempt and we were famous locally.
After all is done, it was about time for a mid year review of the school’s progress in all matters. What I have done for this record, was brought up in the school’s general meeting. Without doubt at all, praises came in waves. What was unexpected, I was complained and criticized by a minority of the colleagues. My intention was just to keep good events in a roll for our swimming team, and having tones of fun with my swimmers who had trained and sacrificed so much.
A list of what was criticized :
1) What is the meaning behind all this? I was said to be using the students to gain popularity and good impression for my personal benefits
2) I was wasting time and financial resources.
3) I was risking my swimmers academics as I used up most of their time for training sessions to prepare for the record attempt.
4) I was using the swimmers to pave the road for my future promotion, salary raise and bonuses pay.
It really shocked me. These things coming out from the mouth of teachers!!! Honestly, I was just planning to have fun and to create unforgettable memories for ourselves. My intentions were innocent, but yet, others who do not know me well, manage to derive to such claims.
Well, I hope this is not boring, relating my experience on how what I did, lead to misinterpretations of others which was hurtful for me.
P/S : give me sometime, I’ll upload some pictures of the record I mentioned ^^
Movie Review – Bride Wars
Synopsis – It’s a movie about two best girl friends growing up side by side with the goal to get married someday at the same place called The Plaza in New York. As they movie goes along, both best friends ended up being rivals towards each other to have the perfect wedding with scenes where both of them coming up with ingenious ideas to sabotage each other’s wedding.
From the movie :
Interpersonal Communication
Liv (Kate Hudson) and Emma (Anne Hathaway) were VERY good friends, best of best friends. At any stage at all of their lives let it be childhood, adolescence years or adulthood, they were practically there for each other. As things went awry for their relationship, where they became rivals, they were up to the extend of not meeting or talking to each other anymore. At those moments, it was so obvious how both of them were attached to each other and how the absence of the other affected them throughout. As you are comfortable and that close with someone, self disclose tends to make it’s way to the peak. In the movie itself, both Liv and Emma were practically talking about anything on any subjects although their perspective over certain matters are sometimes in conflict. This even proves the point that self disclosures usually occurs in dyads.
Stages of Relational Development
Entering the second halve of the movie, where weddings preparation caused both to be married to couples to run on errands and chores for their big day, problems started to surface for Emma and her fiancé. They started to realize how each other’s decision or views over matters are different, and subsequently, trouble starts brewing for them. They were already at the bonding stage, where they are about to get married and spend the rest of their lives together. Towards the end of the movie, from bonding stage, they plunged straight down towards the bottom, the terminating stage. Their wedding was called off due to a lot of coincidence mishaps, and there and then, both Emma and her fiancé parted ways. It really breaks my heart at this part.
It’s a good movie to watch for the mentioned topics related to our subject human communication, at least in my point of view. Although it might seem to be a girl’s type of movie, guys: there is no harm in watching it, there’s no need to feel squishy or sissy about watching these kind of movies. Perhaps you might learn more about girls?
Cheers.
From the movie :
Interpersonal Communication
Liv (Kate Hudson) and Emma (Anne Hathaway) were VERY good friends, best of best friends. At any stage at all of their lives let it be childhood, adolescence years or adulthood, they were practically there for each other. As things went awry for their relationship, where they became rivals, they were up to the extend of not meeting or talking to each other anymore. At those moments, it was so obvious how both of them were attached to each other and how the absence of the other affected them throughout. As you are comfortable and that close with someone, self disclose tends to make it’s way to the peak. In the movie itself, both Liv and Emma were practically talking about anything on any subjects although their perspective over certain matters are sometimes in conflict. This even proves the point that self disclosures usually occurs in dyads.
Stages of Relational Development
Entering the second halve of the movie, where weddings preparation caused both to be married to couples to run on errands and chores for their big day, problems started to surface for Emma and her fiancé. They started to realize how each other’s decision or views over matters are different, and subsequently, trouble starts brewing for them. They were already at the bonding stage, where they are about to get married and spend the rest of their lives together. Towards the end of the movie, from bonding stage, they plunged straight down towards the bottom, the terminating stage. Their wedding was called off due to a lot of coincidence mishaps, and there and then, both Emma and her fiancé parted ways. It really breaks my heart at this part.
It’s a good movie to watch for the mentioned topics related to our subject human communication, at least in my point of view. Although it might seem to be a girl’s type of movie, guys: there is no harm in watching it, there’s no need to feel squishy or sissy about watching these kind of movies. Perhaps you might learn more about girls?
Cheers.
Fantasizing Relationships
Most of us want to find the perfect person for us, "our life partner, our one coquette, the answer to our love's duet" (enchanted ü) ... in other words MR. RIGHT or MRS. RIGHT ♥. But the question is...is there really a perfect person for us?
Some say a relationship could start and grow from being friends or best of friends...like the lyrics from the song "lucky" by Jason Mraz and Colbie Cailat "lucky i'm in love with my best friend" :) anyway... we can't really say a person is really perfect for us. ..maybe from the start of the relationship, she/he could be your dream girl or guy but when the relationship starts to get long.. you'll know his or her true color especially when you're in the "maintaining relationship stage" you'll say "She's a nightmare!!!" or "He's not THE one!!!".
Some people get attracted with just a physical touch... some would even say " i felt the spark between us!" eventhough it's just their fingers that accidentally bumped to each other. :|
Some would get attracted by intellect or by the way one thinks. This applies when a person sounds smart for you or if anything he says makes any sense. BUT if he sounds different...or the way he reason out or speak is just A BIG blur to you then screw him... find another one!:)
Some would be attracted emotionally... of what he/she feels... but is it love? or just merely an infatuation?
lastely, some get attracted by their "common activity". People tend to get closer because of the same thing they're doing. like playing guitar together... having the same class with each other etc... :) (yeah!:) )
[[ but for SOME... ALL they do is FORCE other people just to be in a relationship with them! (well that's HARSH! right?), they would even crack the lamest / corny ice-breaker line or a pick-up line just to initiate a conversation... While others are just plain stubborn/ hard headed that keeps on pushing what they want.]]
anyway...In my opinion, a perfect someone doesnt exist... its all a fantasy or a wishful thinking for everyone to have hope or expect that someone "perfect" exist:)
Some say a relationship could start and grow from being friends or best of friends...like the lyrics from the song "lucky" by Jason Mraz and Colbie Cailat "lucky i'm in love with my best friend" :) anyway... we can't really say a person is really perfect for us. ..maybe from the start of the relationship, she/he could be your dream girl or guy but when the relationship starts to get long.. you'll know his or her true color especially when you're in the "maintaining relationship stage" you'll say "She's a nightmare!!!" or "He's not THE one!!!".
Some people get attracted with just a physical touch... some would even say " i felt the spark between us!" eventhough it's just their fingers that accidentally bumped to each other. :|
Some would get attracted by intellect or by the way one thinks. This applies when a person sounds smart for you or if anything he says makes any sense. BUT if he sounds different...or the way he reason out or speak is just A BIG blur to you then screw him... find another one!:)
Some would be attracted emotionally... of what he/she feels... but is it love? or just merely an infatuation?
lastely, some get attracted by their "common activity". People tend to get closer because of the same thing they're doing. like playing guitar together... having the same class with each other etc... :) (yeah!:) )
[[ but for SOME... ALL they do is FORCE other people just to be in a relationship with them! (well that's HARSH! right?), they would even crack the lamest / corny ice-breaker line or a pick-up line just to initiate a conversation... While others are just plain stubborn/ hard headed that keeps on pushing what they want.]]
anyway...In my opinion, a perfect someone doesnt exist... its all a fantasy or a wishful thinking for everyone to have hope or expect that someone "perfect" exist:)
Saturday, February 21
I see DEAD PEOPLE
" I see dead people" is one of the quotes you would hear when you watch sixth sense. Sixth sense is a movie about a child who can see dead people. Because of his gift or curse (if you want to put it that way) ,he was known to be a freak in school.
The child then self-discloses to a child psychologist and told him about his gift.
In relation to the movie, the child finds it hard to share his personal information to the child psychologist having in mind that the psychologist would make fun of him or call him a freak just like everyone else. But in the end, he was able to open up and thus, was helped by the psychologist.
Sometimes it is hard to open up or share to other people especially if we don't know them. Because of the fear that some people might think we're so random to just spill out anything you want to say.Sometimes, we are taken away by our emotions that's why we are able to self-disclose to other people... In the movie, seeing dead people is freaky and scary. You might not know they're dead already! Or some people would think you're psychotic if you see what other don't see...it a movie with thrill...ghosts that would make you want to sleep with the light on!:)
The child then self-discloses to a child psychologist and told him about his gift.
In relation to the movie, the child finds it hard to share his personal information to the child psychologist having in mind that the psychologist would make fun of him or call him a freak just like everyone else. But in the end, he was able to open up and thus, was helped by the psychologist.
Sometimes it is hard to open up or share to other people especially if we don't know them. Because of the fear that some people might think we're so random to just spill out anything you want to say.Sometimes, we are taken away by our emotions that's why we are able to self-disclose to other people... In the movie, seeing dead people is freaky and scary. You might not know they're dead already! Or some people would think you're psychotic if you see what other don't see...it a movie with thrill...ghosts that would make you want to sleep with the light on!:)
Friday, February 20
Self-Disclosure EveryDIE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H8p2dYpeO6U
Self-Disclosure is defined as the sharing of personal information with others and is intentional, important, and usually unknown to the other party. Once in a while, we just have to unload our thoughts and feelings to a certain someone. Our brains and hearts can only take so much that we have to share our emotions with other people. However, one does not keep sharing every personal detail about themselves to just about everyone! Believe ot or not, this has guidelines as well.
Firstly, before you share the color of your underwear (whoa! that rhymes), you must ask yourself the significance of the other person to you. Is he/she as important as your spouse, or just some guy/gal you met at a club? You have to make sure he/she is important to you and you trust him/her, coz this is your emotions and feelings we're talking about!
Secondly, think if this info you're about to drop on him/her is is reasonable. Does he/she have to know this? If so, what's its relevance? Then you have to know how much of the info you want to tell him/her. Should you state everything or just a trifle?
You also have to make sure that you get your share of dirt too. You can't just keep sharing stuff about yourself and let the other party gobble it up without them saying something about themselves. After your confession, you must ask them questions like, "so how's your job coming along?" or "What about you? getting some?"
Make sure what you said is constructive as well. Don't just keep blabbing and ruining everyone's lives. Try to find the relevance and purpose of what you're about to say before you say it.
Most importantly, always make sure what you just said is what you just said. Recall if what you disclosed is actually what you wanted to share and no exaggerated or extra stuff was added. This is important for the other party's answer or reply to your disclosure might be affected.
Yes. Make sure you follow these steps before you disclose anything to anyone. oh, and note, this is something that shouldn't be done ALL THE TIME. Once in a while is okay and appropriate. I believe that self-disclosure is very valuable and important, and if we keep doing it, it just looses its shine. It'll be an everyday thing and won't be special anymore. so yeah! Do it wisely!
Peace and Love :)>-
Self-Disclosure is defined as the sharing of personal information with others and is intentional, important, and usually unknown to the other party. Once in a while, we just have to unload our thoughts and feelings to a certain someone. Our brains and hearts can only take so much that we have to share our emotions with other people. However, one does not keep sharing every personal detail about themselves to just about everyone! Believe ot or not, this has guidelines as well.
Firstly, before you share the color of your underwear (whoa! that rhymes), you must ask yourself the significance of the other person to you. Is he/she as important as your spouse, or just some guy/gal you met at a club? You have to make sure he/she is important to you and you trust him/her, coz this is your emotions and feelings we're talking about!
Secondly, think if this info you're about to drop on him/her is is reasonable. Does he/she have to know this? If so, what's its relevance? Then you have to know how much of the info you want to tell him/her. Should you state everything or just a trifle?
You also have to make sure that you get your share of dirt too. You can't just keep sharing stuff about yourself and let the other party gobble it up without them saying something about themselves. After your confession, you must ask them questions like, "so how's your job coming along?" or "What about you? getting some?"
Make sure what you said is constructive as well. Don't just keep blabbing and ruining everyone's lives. Try to find the relevance and purpose of what you're about to say before you say it.
Most importantly, always make sure what you just said is what you just said. Recall if what you disclosed is actually what you wanted to share and no exaggerated or extra stuff was added. This is important for the other party's answer or reply to your disclosure might be affected.
Yes. Make sure you follow these steps before you disclose anything to anyone. oh, and note, this is something that shouldn't be done ALL THE TIME. Once in a while is okay and appropriate. I believe that self-disclosure is very valuable and important, and if we keep doing it, it just looses its shine. It'll be an everyday thing and won't be special anymore. so yeah! Do it wisely!
Peace and Love :)>-
Sunday, February 15
How To Know If You Are Close To A Chick
A lot of dudes scratch their heads at wondering whether or not they are indeed close to a certain girl. .... okay... probably not a lot of dudes. But I keep wondering... Until I had the audacity to read the Human Com notes that is! HAHA! What would we do without Human Com? ...
Anyway, I learned that you are close to someone if you both are "intimate." Intimacy is defined as familiar or simply put, "closeness" to someone. And Intimacy has some dimensions too! Yowza!
1) Physical
You are intimate with someone if you aren't afraid to hold or simply touch them. Nothing sexual, just a tap at the back or a simple high five. If there is a sense of awkwardness in the touching, then you need to get to know the person more and learn to be more comfortable with him/her.
2) Intellectual
If both of you have developed the same wavelength of humor, and sometimes the stupidest things turn out to be the funniest and most obvious, then you guys are indeed intimate! As long as you understand the person clearly and aren't afraid to rebut him/her, consider yourselves close.
3) Emotional
This works out only if both of you shared your own personal feelings and actually relate to them. One does not share his/her personal feelings to someone unless he/she is comfortable with the other person.
4) Shared Activities
If both of you enjoy what you are doing such as reading, playing guitar, writing, playing chess, dancing, and maybe even studying Human Com, and feel this certain correlation, then you are indeed intimate. Humans are relational beings and we all (sometimes) need a certain someone to
have some fun.
YEY! I can sleep now! Peace and Love :)>-
Anyway, I learned that you are close to someone if you both are "intimate." Intimacy is defined as familiar or simply put, "closeness" to someone. And Intimacy has some dimensions too! Yowza!
1) Physical
You are intimate with someone if you aren't afraid to hold or simply touch them. Nothing sexual, just a tap at the back or a simple high five. If there is a sense of awkwardness in the touching, then you need to get to know the person more and learn to be more comfortable with him/her.
2) Intellectual
If both of you have developed the same wavelength of humor, and sometimes the stupidest things turn out to be the funniest and most obvious, then you guys are indeed intimate! As long as you understand the person clearly and aren't afraid to rebut him/her, consider yourselves close.
3) Emotional
This works out only if both of you shared your own personal feelings and actually relate to them. One does not share his/her personal feelings to someone unless he/she is comfortable with the other person.
4) Shared Activities
If both of you enjoy what you are doing such as reading, playing guitar, writing, playing chess, dancing, and maybe even studying Human Com, and feel this certain correlation, then you are indeed intimate. Humans are relational beings and we all (sometimes) need a certain someone to
have some fun.
YEY! I can sleep now! Peace and Love :)>-
Gestures and Sign Languages
As told, non-verbal communication occurs 65% of the time. Amongst it, gestures and sign languages are no strangers towards this proclaim. Well, I chose this to talk about because I found out it wasn’t easy to be non-verbal when we can speak. What we are trying to deliver might be wrongly interpreted by others, and definitely this will be proven on Tuesday as we view different movie clips of non-verbal. I am sure that each of us will have different views of it and it is only clear when it is defined and explained by those who done it.
Moving on, have you ever wondered how it will be like if you are deaf or mute? In the process of this group work, I really find it hard to understand certain gestures without asking it. Even by shooting it, everyone around was wondering what are these lunatics doing? I saw a whole lot of different facial expressions related to that. Working on the project itself made me realize how crucial and how true it is of 65% of communication stands out. Although just by viewing it might not explain all, I am sure most of us are able to roughly interpret what is going on in the movie clip.
The thought of unable to speak really gave me the scares, and how will this world end up without verbal communication at certain aspects. A lot of things would be in chaos.
So, let’s just sit back and relax and get our popcorns ready for Tuesday’s special show!!!
Moving on, have you ever wondered how it will be like if you are deaf or mute? In the process of this group work, I really find it hard to understand certain gestures without asking it. Even by shooting it, everyone around was wondering what are these lunatics doing? I saw a whole lot of different facial expressions related to that. Working on the project itself made me realize how crucial and how true it is of 65% of communication stands out. Although just by viewing it might not explain all, I am sure most of us are able to roughly interpret what is going on in the movie clip.
The thought of unable to speak really gave me the scares, and how will this world end up without verbal communication at certain aspects. A lot of things would be in chaos.
So, let’s just sit back and relax and get our popcorns ready for Tuesday’s special show!!!
Intrapersonal communication in written form
Let’s see, from what I know, the most common examples would be writing a diary. But as technology age is rapidly growing, writing blogs are one of the trends now instead of keeping a diary.
Perhaps for many others in general, writing a diary might just seem to be things that only girls would do. That is just on the surface. One of the best things I enjoy about writing a diary is, it provides you the time to reflect on yourself throughout your daily activities or life most importantly.
When you are writing a diary, to my personal opinion, that is when you are alone and reflecting back things you might have done right or wrong, truthful or dishonest towards yourself or others in a day or a week or a month. Looking at the bright side, writing a diary is a way to release certain stress and discomfort live brings upon us.
A lot of things, sometimes dark secrets are not easily disclosed even to your closest friend. Keeping a secret brings a lot of stress. Or another example, some small little achievement that means a lot to you, but telling it to others will end up being a laughing stock to them. By writing it down, you are actually motivating and giving yourself the recognition of a job well done over some matters.
Everyone needs a pat on the back from time to time, and keeping a diary, is definitely one of the best way to get the ‘pat’. Furthermore, as we age, these could somehow be the lessons of life which money cannot buy. Communicating interpersonally occurs towards everyone, even those that are mentally ill!
In conclusion, I only see the benefits of keeping a diary, even if in future there appears to be disadvantages, I am sure the benefits outweigh the cons.
P/S : just a tip : keep your diary safe and secured all times!!! You don’t want personal matters being rumored around.
Perhaps for many others in general, writing a diary might just seem to be things that only girls would do. That is just on the surface. One of the best things I enjoy about writing a diary is, it provides you the time to reflect on yourself throughout your daily activities or life most importantly.
When you are writing a diary, to my personal opinion, that is when you are alone and reflecting back things you might have done right or wrong, truthful or dishonest towards yourself or others in a day or a week or a month. Looking at the bright side, writing a diary is a way to release certain stress and discomfort live brings upon us.
A lot of things, sometimes dark secrets are not easily disclosed even to your closest friend. Keeping a secret brings a lot of stress. Or another example, some small little achievement that means a lot to you, but telling it to others will end up being a laughing stock to them. By writing it down, you are actually motivating and giving yourself the recognition of a job well done over some matters.
Everyone needs a pat on the back from time to time, and keeping a diary, is definitely one of the best way to get the ‘pat’. Furthermore, as we age, these could somehow be the lessons of life which money cannot buy. Communicating interpersonally occurs towards everyone, even those that are mentally ill!
In conclusion, I only see the benefits of keeping a diary, even if in future there appears to be disadvantages, I am sure the benefits outweigh the cons.
P/S : just a tip : keep your diary safe and secured all times!!! You don’t want personal matters being rumored around.
Never Back Down
Never Back Down is a movie about Jake (Sean Faris) a new kid in school who fell in love with a girl Baja Miller (Amber Heard) who has a fight-club boyfriend name Ryan (Cam Gigandet). Knowing how Jake feels about his girlfriend, Ryan challenged Jake to a fight resulting to a brutal defeat for Jake. Felt embarrassed, Jake then turns to a mixed martial arts master (Djimon Hounsou), who teaches him how to fight… and how to walk away. In this movie, Jake didn't back down or run away, he fought till he can no longer stand. the Conflict between Jake and Ryan gave and released negative energy around them, thus making them fight till the end. Conflicts about a girl, kickboxing and most especially one's reputation revolved around two men; therefore triggered their anger making them wanting to be the best. None of them walked away or gave in making them fight till the end.
Women over 40
Base on what Andy Rooney thinks about women over 40 on 60 Minutes (show) , my family and i debated about women when they reach 40 gets more depreciated rather than men at 40. So, each of us sided whether women over 40 are depreciated or more appreciated. Each side gave reasons just to defend what they believed in. For those who believed that women over 40 are being depreciated said that men prefer younger women to spend their life with. They said women over 40 can't give what a younger women can give. In addition, men over 40 can have what they want. It is easier for men at 40 to find other girls rather than 40 yr old women trying to find men.. On the other hand the opponent side said women over 40 are more elegant than younger women thus getting the attention of men and more likely men would want elegant women to spent their life with. Plus, younger women would prefer men in the same age caliber as they are.
Although the discussion/ debate was heating up. We were able to release a positive talking environment around us. We didn't end up with a conflict but rather a knowledgeable, peaceful environment. A de-escalatory conflict spiral. We exchange positive conversation thus had a fruitful result:)
Here are some ideas Andy Rooney said about 40 yr. old women:
Although the discussion/ debate was heating up. We were able to release a positive talking environment around us. We didn't end up with a conflict but rather a knowledgeable, peaceful environment. A de-escalatory conflict spiral. We exchange positive conversation thus had a fruitful result:)
Here are some ideas Andy Rooney said about 40 yr. old women:
- A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, 'What are you thinking?’ She doesn't care what you think.
- Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40.
- Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk, if you are
acting like one. You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her. - For all those men who say, 'Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?Here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage.Why? because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!:)
Monday, February 9
The Beatles Butcher Shot
This is an album cover from The Beatles. "Yesterday and Today" was a compilation album back in the day. The album cover was shot by Robert Whitaker and was supposed to symbolize Capitol Records and how they butchered the Beatles' songs like meat in order to make a profit. However, because of Perception, the artistic photograph was scrutinized rather unfairly.Perception is the system where one notices and interprets data about people, events, activities, and situations. Or in this case... album covers... But when you come to think of it, this shot does raise the hair of some Common Perceptual Tendencies... It is quite intense and a lot of people favor negative impressions. This album was looked down upon too much for it did not follow the social rules at that time.
We should always remember that The Beatles didn't intend for this album to upset anyone. They just wanted something different and unique. It's a shame the fans' perception on the idea was very negative.
At the same day the album was released, it was recalled due to objections from some consumers. It was later reinstated with a new cover pasted on the previous cover.
mmmm... if you ask me, I prefer the first one. It's more revolutionary!
Rock and Roll! \,,/
Sunday, February 8
Small Group Communication
Still about things related to the HMC’s leadership camp :
Upon arrival, we were divided into groups. Each group randomly consists of 8 to 9 individuals. With such ‘luck’, I was again randomly selected as the group leader.
As a group leader, I was more of playing the roles of and Initiator and Contributor. Basically, my main roles was to get briefed for tasks given ahead and initiate cheers for ourselves whenever time suits.
The rest of my group, had members with few types of characteristics of a group member. For my group, I had Opinion Givers, Supporters/Encouragers, Gatekeepers, Tension Relievers. In summary, my team had it all to be a perfect team.
From the varies of activities in this 3 days, our group BONDED together. Even though we started off mainly as strangers to each other, each and everyone of us portrayed their own roles in being a group member.
And of course, with suitable and sufficient of roles in the group, our group managed to finish each raced activities among the top 3 out of 8 groups. We had consistency, teamwork, being organized and systematic, cheerful and high-spirited and most of all, each of us went home with a lesson well learnt.
In my personal opinion, a group is only as strong as its weakest link, and ONLY through communication and the need to perform each roles and duties are we only to be able to see the RESULTS of a group effort. To me, the best way to communicate in a group is by applying the ALL-CHANNEL NETWORK and at appropriate time using the WHEEL NETWORK.
Upon arrival, we were divided into groups. Each group randomly consists of 8 to 9 individuals. With such ‘luck’, I was again randomly selected as the group leader.
As a group leader, I was more of playing the roles of and Initiator and Contributor. Basically, my main roles was to get briefed for tasks given ahead and initiate cheers for ourselves whenever time suits.
The rest of my group, had members with few types of characteristics of a group member. For my group, I had Opinion Givers, Supporters/Encouragers, Gatekeepers, Tension Relievers. In summary, my team had it all to be a perfect team.
From the varies of activities in this 3 days, our group BONDED together. Even though we started off mainly as strangers to each other, each and everyone of us portrayed their own roles in being a group member.
And of course, with suitable and sufficient of roles in the group, our group managed to finish each raced activities among the top 3 out of 8 groups. We had consistency, teamwork, being organized and systematic, cheerful and high-spirited and most of all, each of us went home with a lesson well learnt.
In my personal opinion, a group is only as strong as its weakest link, and ONLY through communication and the need to perform each roles and duties are we only to be able to see the RESULTS of a group effort. To me, the best way to communicate in a group is by applying the ALL-CHANNEL NETWORK and at appropriate time using the WHEEL NETWORK.
An aspect of Mutual Respects fusion with Intrapersonal Communication
Having just gotten back from HMC’s 2009 leadership camp, I was able to experience another sort of communication. It is the communication amongst the forest and the superficial beings of the forest which we are told of.
We were to enter the forest during daytime and nighttime for certain outdoor activities. But before these activities were conducted, each and everyone was STRICLY briefed on the do’s and don’t’s while you are in the forest. Among them are :
a) Do not call your friends name while you are in the forest.
b) Do not relieve yourselves as you like in the forest, you are suppose to say ‘ Excuse me” before you start relieving if it is a case of emergency.
c) Enter the forest with respect for it, leaving it as original as it is as you came in. This covers up aspects of not to litter when you are in the forest, and not to take things as souvenirs from the forest itself as those do not belong to us.
d) It is advisable at the moment you are to leave the forest, you should say “Sampai sinilah Datuk”(it means that “this is as far as you come with me sir”).
Those few examples above are just some basic simple rules or restrictions of the forest. Basically, we are to communicate in a way never before towards a ‘spiritual world”. Failing to do so as mentioned, we were likened to have offended the spirits of the forest itself. Scientifically, it is not proven of such existence of spirits or ghost etc, but yet, here we are living in the 21st century, we are doing so. It is not a matter of argument as we are just expected to follow as told as there was such off cases.
This mutual respect for the forest and the spiritual world living inside somehow causes the rules and guidelines to be formed. This sort of communication are to be intrapersonal as you voice things out in your head and you do not WISH to HEAR a REPLY while you are in a forest.
We were to enter the forest during daytime and nighttime for certain outdoor activities. But before these activities were conducted, each and everyone was STRICLY briefed on the do’s and don’t’s while you are in the forest. Among them are :
a) Do not call your friends name while you are in the forest.
b) Do not relieve yourselves as you like in the forest, you are suppose to say ‘ Excuse me” before you start relieving if it is a case of emergency.
c) Enter the forest with respect for it, leaving it as original as it is as you came in. This covers up aspects of not to litter when you are in the forest, and not to take things as souvenirs from the forest itself as those do not belong to us.
d) It is advisable at the moment you are to leave the forest, you should say “Sampai sinilah Datuk”(it means that “this is as far as you come with me sir”).
Those few examples above are just some basic simple rules or restrictions of the forest. Basically, we are to communicate in a way never before towards a ‘spiritual world”. Failing to do so as mentioned, we were likened to have offended the spirits of the forest itself. Scientifically, it is not proven of such existence of spirits or ghost etc, but yet, here we are living in the 21st century, we are doing so. It is not a matter of argument as we are just expected to follow as told as there was such off cases.
This mutual respect for the forest and the spiritual world living inside somehow causes the rules and guidelines to be formed. This sort of communication are to be intrapersonal as you voice things out in your head and you do not WISH to HEAR a REPLY while you are in a forest.
signals
signals are seen throughout our life. it can be seen anywhere! moreover, signals are very important in what we do. Signals can be seen while playing sports like basketball. basketball players should know the signals or signs of the game. they should know the proper sign for traveling, getting a foul and even their own team signals. violation of these signals could cause the team to lose or disqualification. This also goes for the referee, referees should master and know the signals of the game or else the members of the team might get confused; therefore resulting to a chaotic game.
Another, signals could also be seen in a "getting to know" stage in a relationship. When a guy likes a girl, more likely he shows positive signals like his pupils dilate while looking at her, looking at her and not staring her down! Same goes for girls, positive signals could convey that they feel the same way; therefore also returning a positive signal to the opposite sex.
signals are seen everywhere. It falls in the category of non verbal communication... thus individuals are responsible for interpreting it. But some signals are studied like rules, hand signals in a game. you can't just shout "time out!" in a game knowing that your voice is competing with the voice of the crowd so people us their hands to form a "T" and waving it around plus, signals can catch people's attention easily. :)
Another, signals could also be seen in a "getting to know" stage in a relationship. When a guy likes a girl, more likely he shows positive signals like his pupils dilate while looking at her, looking at her and not staring her down! Same goes for girls, positive signals could convey that they feel the same way; therefore also returning a positive signal to the opposite sex.
signals are seen everywhere. It falls in the category of non verbal communication... thus individuals are responsible for interpreting it. But some signals are studied like rules, hand signals in a game. you can't just shout "time out!" in a game knowing that your voice is competing with the voice of the crowd so people us their hands to form a "T" and waving it around plus, signals can catch people's attention easily. :)
Friday, February 6
Lost Generation...
Lost Generation by Jonathan Reed
I am part of a lost generation
and I refuse to believe that
I can change the world
I realize this may be a shock but
“Happiness comes from within.”
is a lie, and
“Money will make me happy.”
So in 30 years I will tell my children
they are not the most important thing in my life
My employer will know that
I have my priorities straight because
work
is more important than
family
I tell you this
Once upon a time
Families stayed together
but this will not be true in my era
This is a quick fix society
Experts tell me
30 years from now, I will be celebrating the 10th anniversary of my divorce
I do not concede that
I will live in a country of my own making
In the future
Environmental destruction will be the norm
No longer can it be said that
My peers and I care about this earth
It will be evident that
My generation is apathetic and lethargic
It is foolish to presume that
There is hope.
And all of this will come true unless we choose to reverse it .
and I refuse to believe that
I am part of a lost generation
Jonathan Reed wrote about the generation we are in and what we can do about it.
An art of language is seen. the structure in this art when read backwards will be different from the way you normally read it, meaning when a structure of a language is changed, it could totally give a different meaning just like "The Lost Generation". :)
...so which generation do you belong in?
I am part of a lost generation
and I refuse to believe that
I can change the world
I realize this may be a shock but
“Happiness comes from within.”
is a lie, and
“Money will make me happy.”
So in 30 years I will tell my children
they are not the most important thing in my life
My employer will know that
I have my priorities straight because
work
is more important than
family
I tell you this
Once upon a time
Families stayed together
but this will not be true in my era
This is a quick fix society
Experts tell me
30 years from now, I will be celebrating the 10th anniversary of my divorce
I do not concede that
I will live in a country of my own making
In the future
Environmental destruction will be the norm
No longer can it be said that
My peers and I care about this earth
It will be evident that
My generation is apathetic and lethargic
It is foolish to presume that
There is hope.
And all of this will come true unless we choose to reverse it .
There is hope.
It is foolish to presume that
My generation is apathetic and lethargic
It will be evident that
My peers and I care about this earth
No longer can it be said that
Environmental destruction will be the norm
In the future
I will live in a country of my own making
I do not concede that
30 years from now, I will be celebrating the 10th anniversary of my divorce
Experts tell me
This is a quick fix society
but this will not be true in my era
Families stayed together
Once upon a time
I tell you this
family
is more important than
work
I have my priorities straight because
My employer will know that
they are not the most important thing in my life
So in 30 years I will tell my children
“Money will make me happy.”
is a lie, and
“Happiness comes from within.”
I realize this may be a shock but
and I refuse to believe that
I am part of a lost generation
Jonathan Reed wrote about the generation we are in and what we can do about it.
An art of language is seen. the structure in this art when read backwards will be different from the way you normally read it, meaning when a structure of a language is changed, it could totally give a different meaning just like "The Lost Generation". :)
...so which generation do you belong in?
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