Power can sometimes lead to leadership...for example... Ferdinand Marcos
Ferdinand Marcos became one of the presidents in the Philippines. He has legitimate power since he was elected by the people. He was chosen by the people to lead their country. Also, Ferdinand Marcos is knowledgeable enough to be the president... this is one of the criteria why people voted for him. But, as time passes by he became a tyrant leader, he possessed coercive power where he rules using threats.
Ferdinand Marcos was voted twice as president. People nowadays believe that he used threats so that people will vote for him once more. During his regime, people are not allowed to voice out their thoughts. People he disliked were killed immediately. As for his wife, she closed all the shoe stores where she brought shoes in so that people have the same shoes as hers. I can say Marcos used coercive power throughout his reign therefore making people angry. the people created a revolution known as the edsa 1 where i can say could be a growth group or a problem-solving group. as a result, Marcos was thrown out as presidency and the people elected a new leader.
Marcos' reign is pretty interesting and how people tried to stop him and went against him... one of the most interesting history of the Philippines:)
Sunday, March 15
Personal Overview
Ta da~~~
Here comes the last blog for human communication.
First of all, to conclude, it was really a nice subject personally. The subject was the most enjoyable one compared to my three other subjects.
Human communication, I do not think that what was covered in the syllabus was enough to totally let one know and understand about human communication, human communication can be almost anything, anywhere, constantly happening. However, it indeed made me understand more about myself, and some general behaviors of others as individuals or group. With what I have learnt, I hope that I am able to carry myself better as an individual in society and all other related aspects. Communication starts off within oneself, spreading on to others like a wild fire. Direct or indirect, communication goes around.
In a way, being in human communication course, I felt that my communication skills with others had indeed improved. I hope my other class mates have somehow gained something from this course, not just merely taking it as a subject we need to pass to grad out foundations. ‘
Lastly, thank you to all my group mates and class mates and lastly Mr.Murali for everything.
Here comes the last blog for human communication.
First of all, to conclude, it was really a nice subject personally. The subject was the most enjoyable one compared to my three other subjects.
Human communication, I do not think that what was covered in the syllabus was enough to totally let one know and understand about human communication, human communication can be almost anything, anywhere, constantly happening. However, it indeed made me understand more about myself, and some general behaviors of others as individuals or group. With what I have learnt, I hope that I am able to carry myself better as an individual in society and all other related aspects. Communication starts off within oneself, spreading on to others like a wild fire. Direct or indirect, communication goes around.
In a way, being in human communication course, I felt that my communication skills with others had indeed improved. I hope my other class mates have somehow gained something from this course, not just merely taking it as a subject we need to pass to grad out foundations. ‘
Lastly, thank you to all my group mates and class mates and lastly Mr.Murali for everything.
Groups
Throughout most stages of our lives in modern day society, it is becoming almost a norm to see people in groups or working in groups. From my tertiary education’s concept, I am already being exposed to working in group for coursework’s or assignments. I totally agree that being in a group, it is a NEED to have and work towards a common goal. Any sidetracks will definitely bring the whole group down.
However, I personally feel that each group that you have joined, will definitely not be the same or similar as previous ones. It can be simply concluded with the fact that there are no 100% similar individuals any where, not even twins.
Of course, haven experienced so many different groups; there are good encounters and bad ones. But either way, the problem needs to be solved when it is popped up. I see myself most of the time as the one resolving any problems or difficulties along the way towards group’s goal. Normally, I prefer to settle things or finalize things. Hence what I always do is be the one that compiles or does the final check before handing over the assignment or an event at hand.
It is most crucial for one to be able to work in group. What I suggest is each individual has their own strengths and weaknesses. It is best to identify them as soon as possible, making it known to others when you are working in a group. It will definitely help when tasks are being distributed. One should also learn to be assertive, daring to speak out one’s thought, but not being aggressive.
Cheers.
P/S : There is no shame in letting others know about your weaknesses in working as a group. The group is only as strong as its weakest link.
However, I personally feel that each group that you have joined, will definitely not be the same or similar as previous ones. It can be simply concluded with the fact that there are no 100% similar individuals any where, not even twins.
Of course, haven experienced so many different groups; there are good encounters and bad ones. But either way, the problem needs to be solved when it is popped up. I see myself most of the time as the one resolving any problems or difficulties along the way towards group’s goal. Normally, I prefer to settle things or finalize things. Hence what I always do is be the one that compiles or does the final check before handing over the assignment or an event at hand.
It is most crucial for one to be able to work in group. What I suggest is each individual has their own strengths and weaknesses. It is best to identify them as soon as possible, making it known to others when you are working in a group. It will definitely help when tasks are being distributed. One should also learn to be assertive, daring to speak out one’s thought, but not being aggressive.
Cheers.
P/S : There is no shame in letting others know about your weaknesses in working as a group. The group is only as strong as its weakest link.
survive and conquer
Most of the games that i know involve surviving and conquering the opponent. most video games like counterstrike, dotA, gears of war and resident evil have a specific goal... which is to defeat the enemies and survive throughout the game.
Most of them involve two or more players. each individual has his or her own goal... which is to survive and attain the highest score. For their group goal, they should finish each objectives in order to advance to the next level. For resident evil as an example, the start player should survive and look after his partner so they can both work together to finish and reach their goals which is to save the world from the undead or zombies and alienated creatures.
Some video games requires group work. they usually belong to social groups where interaction is needed... for some it could also be a learning group where people learn how to cooperate and be strategic... who says we can't learn anything from playing video games?:) just an important reminder, know your priorities before playing... play moderately!:)
For my human communication group... although we experienced a lot of challenges making our projects like arranging meetings and doing our group projects... i learned a lot from them... i consider them as my learning and growth groups. they taught me a lot of things. to survive throughout the hell weeks and to conquer the deadlines of the projects. we were able to reach our goals( to submit the project on time and to learn from each other). I would want to thank them as well as my human communication teacher, mr. murali, for improving my communication skills and for enhancing my knowledge about communication. i can truly say that this is a well-learned experience for me.
Most of them involve two or more players. each individual has his or her own goal... which is to survive and attain the highest score. For their group goal, they should finish each objectives in order to advance to the next level. For resident evil as an example, the start player should survive and look after his partner so they can both work together to finish and reach their goals which is to save the world from the undead or zombies and alienated creatures.
Some video games requires group work. they usually belong to social groups where interaction is needed... for some it could also be a learning group where people learn how to cooperate and be strategic... who says we can't learn anything from playing video games?:) just an important reminder, know your priorities before playing... play moderately!:)
For my human communication group... although we experienced a lot of challenges making our projects like arranging meetings and doing our group projects... i learned a lot from them... i consider them as my learning and growth groups. they taught me a lot of things. to survive throughout the hell weeks and to conquer the deadlines of the projects. we were able to reach our goals( to submit the project on time and to learn from each other). I would want to thank them as well as my human communication teacher, mr. murali, for improving my communication skills and for enhancing my knowledge about communication. i can truly say that this is a well-learned experience for me.
Sunday, March 8
Group / Teamwork – in Sports
Well, I just got back from a long weekend having my competition. It was a well memorable experience this time with me as my team representing Help fared quite well on our first outing as a team in the competition.
To be in relevant, these three days, what I had been through with the team was remarkable. We were made up of combination on different level of players from different states in Malaysia. We got together to play competitively only for the first time. But surprisingly, we performed as if we were playing together as a team for so long.
In this scenario, I see our teamwork as the best among all the other teams. We had a common goal, which was trying to win the competition. All those in the team were either scholarship holders or those that are applying for it. Hence the outcome of this competition would aid them in the future in applying for the Help scholarship. With that in mind, everyone in the team played their hearts out and did their best.
Our common goal was simple, try and win the competition. It was quite a tedious task as there were 16 participating teams being divided in to 4 groups. Only the top two teams of each group advances into quarter finals. From quarter final onwards, it is knockout out system until the finals, in other words, to win this competition, you will need to win all of your matches.
Having the basic game senses for the sports itself, and with certain game plans and strategies we had discussed each time before a match brought us well. Every player performed their role, followed the strategies planned and voila, Help team came up as the champion although participating it for the first time under Help tag.
To me personally, there is no way one playing as an individual in their team will able to make it far in a competition of team sports. The saying of “you are only as strong as your weakest link” was instilled into everyone of us and we covered each other’s back during the game.
This weekend is indeed an unforgettable one for me n my mateys
Cheers
To be in relevant, these three days, what I had been through with the team was remarkable. We were made up of combination on different level of players from different states in Malaysia. We got together to play competitively only for the first time. But surprisingly, we performed as if we were playing together as a team for so long.
In this scenario, I see our teamwork as the best among all the other teams. We had a common goal, which was trying to win the competition. All those in the team were either scholarship holders or those that are applying for it. Hence the outcome of this competition would aid them in the future in applying for the Help scholarship. With that in mind, everyone in the team played their hearts out and did their best.
Our common goal was simple, try and win the competition. It was quite a tedious task as there were 16 participating teams being divided in to 4 groups. Only the top two teams of each group advances into quarter finals. From quarter final onwards, it is knockout out system until the finals, in other words, to win this competition, you will need to win all of your matches.
Having the basic game senses for the sports itself, and with certain game plans and strategies we had discussed each time before a match brought us well. Every player performed their role, followed the strategies planned and voila, Help team came up as the champion although participating it for the first time under Help tag.
To me personally, there is no way one playing as an individual in their team will able to make it far in a competition of team sports. The saying of “you are only as strong as your weakest link” was instilled into everyone of us and we covered each other’s back during the game.
This weekend is indeed an unforgettable one for me n my mateys
Cheers
DotA
playing LAN games promote social groupings. it is a type of social group where people meet while playing the game. there are a lot of ways how people meet each other in this online game-DOTA. People who plays Dota invites other people to play...the more the merrier..take it from me who plays :)
the group goal of this game is to conquer the opposite side.
Have a Beyond god-like player and of course defeat the enemy
DotA can be addictive so play moderately!:)
the group goal of this game is to conquer the opposite side.
Have a Beyond god-like player and of course defeat the enemy
DotA can be addictive so play moderately!:)
Friday, March 6
non verbal communication
Non verbal communications are messages expressed by others than words. Non verbal communication expresses meaning and feelings through body language like body movement, facial expression and eye contact. This communication normally happens unintentionally but some people do it intentionally. Non verbal communication has a greater impact to people compared to verbal communication. This impact happens when verbal and non verbal communication cues are contradictory. Non verbal communication is important especially in high-context culture. It is important because it has multiple functions. One of its functions is to repeat verbal message, for example when a person is directing someone for direction. Its second function is that it is used to accent a verbal language, for instance the tone of the speaker’s voice. Another function of it is that it substitutes verbal messages, for example a listener shakes his head as a respond to the speaker when he doesn’t get the message from the speaker. There are 10 types of non verbal communication.
Monday, March 2
Identity Management (Part 2)
Hmm, after some consideration, I think I am going to continue about the different identities I have.
The fourth identity that I portray is when I am with my team mates or juniors in my sport, water polo. In this social circle of mine, as a senior, I uphold a certain degree of reputation, hence, I am treated with quite a lot of respect from the juniors especially. I am more relaxed and more of myself when I am in this circle.
The fifth one, and still counting, I am the coach for Negeri Sembilan water polo team. Well, the word coach really says it all, but in general, most people would see it that a coach would more likely be a strict and serious one. In actual fact, I have simple and basic border lines for my players. When it is time for training or competition, my players should have the utmost respect and discipline for me. But when it is out of those mentioned situations, they can treat me as a friend or as an older brother of theirs.
The sixth one, which is actually my past, I was a teacher in a private secondary high school. I was indeed very young when I started out, so young that I was only 1 or 2 years older than those doing their last year in that school when I started out. So, when it is time for classes during school hours, I take up my role as their teacher, and they do their part as my students. But when it is after school hours, when possible, we have activities together as friends. It was easier to mix around with students compare to mingling into the staffs and other teachers which most are not of my generation.
The ever last identity I can think of now, would be when I am with a girlfriend or with a girl I like and have feelings for. I think only those girls in the past that has been with me will only get to see and experience this part of me. All I can say is, I think I am really totally different when it is with a girl that I am into( I am going out with one now^^, hopefully I will be able to convince her in being my gf!). Well, when I am alone with that special somebody, basically I just try and be myself and be nice and try in my every way to show her I am sincere towards her and I am not fooling around. Should I disclose which girl it is? Haha…I guess that’s for me n her to know, and for you to find out.
By the end of the day, it is up to us to portray different identities and manage them accordingly. In my opinion, the more identities you have, the better one’s social skill is.
P/S : maybe there will be a part 3 of my identity….to be continued…………..
Sunday, March 1
Identity Management (Part 1)
This is an interesting topic for me. I believe that each has at least two different identities. In general, it is the self you present when you are with your family and the self you present when you are with your friends. The wider range of friends or social circles you have, the more identities you tend to portray.
Well, it is not good to mention how others are, so it is best for me to mention this part about myself.
The first and most basic of course, is my identity as an eldest son to my parents and as an elder brother to my siblings. There isn’t much to brief on this part as most in general have this identity. Another one in common is the social self you present when you are out from the comfort zone of your family. Our society has it’s social rules, and throughout family education and school education, we are taught to go along with the rules. Those that fail in obvious ways, are often apprehended by the social rules for example the criminals or prisoners.
Moving on, the third identity I portray is as a student in college, but to me, it is quite different as I am quite old, and I am mixing around with peers that are younger than me.
Well, it is not good to mention how others are, so it is best for me to mention this part about myself.
The first and most basic of course, is my identity as an eldest son to my parents and as an elder brother to my siblings. There isn’t much to brief on this part as most in general have this identity. Another one in common is the social self you present when you are out from the comfort zone of your family. Our society has it’s social rules, and throughout family education and school education, we are taught to go along with the rules. Those that fail in obvious ways, are often apprehended by the social rules for example the criminals or prisoners.
Moving on, the third identity I portray is as a student in college, but to me, it is quite different as I am quite old, and I am mixing around with peers that are younger than me.
Listening and Hearing
As mentioned, both listening and hearing in general seems to be alike, but lexically, they are two different things. To compare, hearing often happens with college students when they are in dull lectures or when parents starts their endless nagging. Physically they are there, but mentally their minds are wandering to other stuffs.
Moving on, listening often takes place when a close friend is disclosing or sharing their emotional events or their personal experiences.
Well, those are just some relevant examples I come up with. Bringing human communication into the picture, I found out that they are so many more types of listening or hearing, it is really an eye opener. I believe that in order to maintain a good relationship as bf-gf or friends, one should at least have a basic degree of being able to listen to what the other party has to say. When this fails, it is more likely that the relationship is a tough one to maintain.
Communication is quite hard if you lose your hearing ability. In actual, your hearing ability, is one of the senses that you are unable to control. You cannot on or off it as you desire. Constantly, you are affected by what is happening around you because of your hearing abilities. Putting it in such a way, it simply means more or less, we are somehow affected mentally or psychologically, depending on one’s tolerance.
So, unavoidable, hearing and listening plays an important part in our daily communication. One should really take some time in self reflecting whether they are a decent listener, and if not should really consider means to try and improve it.
P/S : I consider myself as quite a good listener. Do feel free to come forth and lend my ears..haha….
Moving on, listening often takes place when a close friend is disclosing or sharing their emotional events or their personal experiences.
Well, those are just some relevant examples I come up with. Bringing human communication into the picture, I found out that they are so many more types of listening or hearing, it is really an eye opener. I believe that in order to maintain a good relationship as bf-gf or friends, one should at least have a basic degree of being able to listen to what the other party has to say. When this fails, it is more likely that the relationship is a tough one to maintain.
Communication is quite hard if you lose your hearing ability. In actual, your hearing ability, is one of the senses that you are unable to control. You cannot on or off it as you desire. Constantly, you are affected by what is happening around you because of your hearing abilities. Putting it in such a way, it simply means more or less, we are somehow affected mentally or psychologically, depending on one’s tolerance.
So, unavoidable, hearing and listening plays an important part in our daily communication. One should really take some time in self reflecting whether they are a decent listener, and if not should really consider means to try and improve it.
P/S : I consider myself as quite a good listener. Do feel free to come forth and lend my ears..haha….
Brain damaging conflicts
conflicts are hard to solve..it's either you win some or you lose some... it's hard to have a win-win solution. it's sometimes make your brain "soupy" ( meaning it's squeezing or using a lot of your brain thus making it all watery) when coming up with solutions to solve conflicts.
win-lose: it is when one of you wins while the other one loses. sometimes conflicts are solved when people tend to stoop down from what they believe in just to avoid more and more conflicts or make the conflicts even worst. This happened to me and my brother. we fought over who is getting the last piece of junk food. (yes, junk food^^). i have my point on why i should have that last piece... i am older than him, skinnier than him and lastly i'm a girl!!:) that's why i should have the last piece. he too has his side of reasons why he should have the food. In the end, i ended up giving him the last piece thus, having a win- lose situation. he won-i lost.
lose-lose: when both parties lose :) For instance: my brother and i wanted to go somewhere on the the same day, at same time but different place. we are arguing on who is getting the car. None of us gave in since we felt that it is important for us to go. we argued for about an hour until our mother made the decision that none of us are going out. (in short we're both got grounded) :(
win-win: two parties win. this win-win situation is hard to achieve. i myself is having a hard time achieving this situation especially when me and my brother are fighting (yes, we fight a lot). our mom usually have solutions for my brother and i to have a win-win situation. This happened to us when me and my brother wanted to watch our own favorite show. same time same day but we only have one TV. we fought on who is going to give in so that the other one could watch his/her favorite show. In the end we both ended up watching our favorite show... its just that he watched it on replays while i watched it on the original time.
solving conflicts can be brain damaging ! ( just an expression:D) it's hard to live a life with a lot of conflicts especially when you don't know how to fix them or having someone fix them for you. Yeah, conflicts sometimes make people feel down especially when you lose or in a lose- lose situation. It is better to have an open-mind about the conflicts you're facing. Try going or asking people you trust for hep.:)
win-lose: it is when one of you wins while the other one loses. sometimes conflicts are solved when people tend to stoop down from what they believe in just to avoid more and more conflicts or make the conflicts even worst. This happened to me and my brother. we fought over who is getting the last piece of junk food. (yes, junk food^^). i have my point on why i should have that last piece... i am older than him, skinnier than him and lastly i'm a girl!!:) that's why i should have the last piece. he too has his side of reasons why he should have the food. In the end, i ended up giving him the last piece thus, having a win- lose situation. he won-i lost.
lose-lose: when both parties lose :) For instance: my brother and i wanted to go somewhere on the the same day, at same time but different place. we are arguing on who is getting the car. None of us gave in since we felt that it is important for us to go. we argued for about an hour until our mother made the decision that none of us are going out. (in short we're both got grounded) :(
win-win: two parties win. this win-win situation is hard to achieve. i myself is having a hard time achieving this situation especially when me and my brother are fighting (yes, we fight a lot). our mom usually have solutions for my brother and i to have a win-win situation. This happened to us when me and my brother wanted to watch our own favorite show. same time same day but we only have one TV. we fought on who is going to give in so that the other one could watch his/her favorite show. In the end we both ended up watching our favorite show... its just that he watched it on replays while i watched it on the original time.
solving conflicts can be brain damaging ! ( just an expression:D) it's hard to live a life with a lot of conflicts especially when you don't know how to fix them or having someone fix them for you. Yeah, conflicts sometimes make people feel down especially when you lose or in a lose- lose situation. It is better to have an open-mind about the conflicts you're facing. Try going or asking people you trust for hep.:)
distractions in listening
listening is sometimes hard to do especially with distractions everywhere... we can't say that there are people who are actually experts in listening... there could be external and internal factors why people are having a hard time listening.
Poor listening could be the cause of lack of effort. listening takes effort to understand what people are trying to say. In class we need effort to understand what the teacher is talking about... so that when your seatmate asks you questions in class they won't hear you say... "sorry... all i hear is blah blah blah..." :D
2nd is message overload... for me i can relate this to cramming:) where you cant anymore understand things since there are too much information being fed into your brain all at the same time.
3rd is psychological noise. Psychological noise has to do with our mind. Sometimes people would think you're psychotic when you hear things they can't hear. :D
4th is physical noise. It is when we hear external noise like the noise that comes from the air conditioner...or crickets at night... the noise that surrounds us. This is sometimes annoying for some especially when you're trying to do something important thus, you want silence but you can't achieve that silence since the external noise is driving you crazy!
5th is hearing problems...no offense but i think we are most likely to relate this to elder people. where they can't even hear what you're saying so you maximize your volume but when you do that they'll get angry cause you're shouting at them... funny lol. funny experience. Not only elders but people who are born with hearing problems.
lastly is media influences. we tend to "not hear" properly what news anchors are saying since we are distracted but the mini scroll bars moving while they are speaking. I believe that it is impossible to read and listen at the same time. It's either you get more information one one side or you don't get anything at all.
People sometimes say "it's easy!! all you have to do is listen!!" this goes for some parents :)
its east to say but sometimes hard to do especially if you are not willing to do it. :)
Poor listening could be the cause of lack of effort. listening takes effort to understand what people are trying to say. In class we need effort to understand what the teacher is talking about... so that when your seatmate asks you questions in class they won't hear you say... "sorry... all i hear is blah blah blah..." :D
2nd is message overload... for me i can relate this to cramming:) where you cant anymore understand things since there are too much information being fed into your brain all at the same time.
3rd is psychological noise. Psychological noise has to do with our mind. Sometimes people would think you're psychotic when you hear things they can't hear. :D
4th is physical noise. It is when we hear external noise like the noise that comes from the air conditioner...or crickets at night... the noise that surrounds us. This is sometimes annoying for some especially when you're trying to do something important thus, you want silence but you can't achieve that silence since the external noise is driving you crazy!
5th is hearing problems...no offense but i think we are most likely to relate this to elder people. where they can't even hear what you're saying so you maximize your volume but when you do that they'll get angry cause you're shouting at them... funny lol. funny experience. Not only elders but people who are born with hearing problems.
lastly is media influences. we tend to "not hear" properly what news anchors are saying since we are distracted but the mini scroll bars moving while they are speaking. I believe that it is impossible to read and listen at the same time. It's either you get more information one one side or you don't get anything at all.
People sometimes say "it's easy!! all you have to do is listen!!" this goes for some parents :)
its east to say but sometimes hard to do especially if you are not willing to do it. :)
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